Dear Mom,
How do you feel about possibly your son or daughter going out with someone two years older than them?
Ephesians 5:15-17 NLT
So be careful how you live. Don't live like fools, but like those who are wise. Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. Don't act thoughtlessly but understand what the Lord wants you to do.
This question raises questions in my mind. Since it is considered bad conversational etiquette to answer a question with a question, in this case we will do it hypothetically.
Lets assume that since this is a girls site, that we are a daughter, and now we need to decide if "someone" is a boy. Lets say that's the way it is for now.
The other missing piece of the puzzle are the ages of these two teens. So I am going to attempt to answer it both ways. First, lets say the girl is younger than the boy, by at least two years. If she is fifteen and he is seventeen that is a big difference. If she is seventeen and he is nineteen we not only have a big difference in maturity, but in lifestyle too. He is out of school and she is still in school. I would have a problem with this because of the difference in activities and he and his friends will be more than likely dating for real. While you may be allowed to date at seventeen, remember he has a head start on you and may want to do things your parents would not approve of.
Here are some things we need to consider. Is he a Christian? Do your parents know him? Are you dating, as in going "out" for long periods of time alone with your date? You see it is hard to lend approval to someone even in this venue without having all of these facts. I should say I would need to know him to give my daughter the ok.
Now lets look at it the other way. Lets say the older person is the girl. Later in life this would make no difference at all. But in the teen years most girls are considered more mature than most boys. While this is not always the case, lets say it is here. Lets face it girls we like to mother the opposite sex. Some need it, most hate it, but having to do it for the rest of your life can be a drag. God has a way of bringing people into our lives for a variety of reasons, so while a younger guy may be "cute" consider being just a friend. The reason I say this is that it takes a special kind of God given wisdom to be a friend without raising a young boys hopes for more. If you like a guy who is younger than you by two years, believe me he will take you more seriously than you intend him to. Be his friend until he grows up, or until you lose interest then neither of you will be hurt. If you do not lose interest he will probably see you as someone he can trust and that is a very important quality guys look for when they are ready for a relationship.
I think that it is a good thing that you are asking the opinion of a Christian mom. This shows wisdom and I will be praying that you will always seek Gods will for your life, God bless.
MOM
